Bpd dating narcissist
The borderline waits to meet someone, and then constructs a personality suitable to that person.
If a borderline is dating a guy who loves the Dallas Cowboys, then for sure, she will love the Dallas Cowboys.
I was wondering if you could put out any content on how to deal with narcissistic, overly selfish women. Narcissists also tend to be incredibly charming, very charismatic, and quite colorful. the bright and shiny objects at the middle of the room. And they Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone.
They're tougher to deal with on some levels and I'd love to see what kind of content you have for how to deal with that type of woman." You know... So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating.
The difference, of course, is the actual 15 year old girl is supposed to be flaky, testing identities and philosophies and looks until she finally lands on the one that's "her." But if you're 30 and doing that, well...
-------- (BTW, if you want to understand the mystery of women's addiction to shoes, here's my take: shoes are the article of clothing that represent possibility.
And she's doing this rationalizing for herself, not for him, because it is vital to her own psychological survival that he actually be who he says he is, that he actually have a stable identity that things happen to, because her identity depends on his being a foundation.
That's why the therapist has to maintain such neutrality, consistency in the sessions.
But here's what makes her a borderline: she will actually believe the Giants are better.
This is why narcissists marry borderlines, and not other narcisstists.
Two narcissists simply can't get along: who is the character?
The narcissist is trying to be something-- which already has a model. The borderline has a problem with identity only because other people in the world have stronger identities. Your boyfriend wants a different woman; so you do it. This si done mostly out of fear of abandonment: if you don't "be" the person they want, then they'll leave you, and then what?
Perhaps he thinks himself an artist type, or a tough guy, or the type interested in spiritualism, or like the guy in the Matrix. The borderline is no one: the borderline waits for the script to define her. (Borderlines don't end relationships-- they end relationships another relationship.) The narcissist creates an identity, then tries to force everyone else to buy into it.