I would however like to bring your attention to a great page I've found called "Telling Someone" on They give excellent advice on how to handle this super sensitive topic.
This will then allow you to see herpes for what it really is: an unfortunate occurrence that can be mildly inconvenient at times.
Dear Colette, my question is a bit "heavy" and I hope you are willing to help me with it, because it is totally messing with my body, my heart, my head, with my confidence, with my ability to believe that it's possible for anyone to ever love me again, or ever want to risk being with me because of the physical and psychological impact.
I wish it weren't true, but I have contracted the virus for genital herpes.
The Gremlin, as fellow dating coach Marni Battista likes to call it, is that mean, judgmental, condemning voice inside your head.
The Gremlin is responsible for all of your sabotaging thoughts.